Recently I attended the funeral of my maternal uncle. He passed away at the age of 54 due to a sudden cardiac arrest. He was not sick, was not admitted to hospital and all happened in just an hour’s time. It is only during a funeral I feels life is too fragile. Once I come out of the ceremony I get back to the regular life. This time I thought of writing this up. I attended my sisters FRCS admission ceremony at The Royal College of Physicians and Surgeons of Glasgow. Being an engineer I was fascinated to hear the challenges from the doctor and medical fraternity. The President of the college gave an excellent speech regarding the challenges that the doctors face and how to approach them. But I liked the last thing he mentioned in his speech. He said something similar to “Every professional should take care and look after oneself. The world always needs you as a professional (engineer, doctor, businessman etc.,) but your family and friends need you as a person”. This is very important. As a professional we are taught from the very beginning to work hard, be ambitious, go that extra mile, aim for perfection, achieve our goals, aim high etc., But there is a price for everything. Don’t pay your life as a price. There are so many books written on this subject. I am going to take only three things that I felt as important.
Share your burden
There is a famous saying “If you want to go fast then go alone but if you want to go far then go together”. Often as a professional we don’t delegate things. I am not saying delegate everything and sit idle. I mean there are lot of activities that can be delegated to people. And there are people who are longing for trust and responsibility. Trust the people, in my experience most of the people are trustworthy. If someone breaks it learn the lesson and move on.
Your current speed is OK
In today’s time, social media portrays something like everyone is successful, people are moving very fast, someone achieve a lot at much younger age etc., This brings in lot of anxiety and often one feels am I going slow? And in the name of speeding up one starts to spend more time on the ambition. There is no problem in spending time for the ambition. But if you exhaust all your time towards your ambition then when will you LIVE. And when you reach the ambition with whom will you celebrate. I feel the current speed at which you are going is OK. Even if you want to speed up do it in steps. Don’t accelerate too hard.
Take time out for yourself
In automobile we have brake, if you ask someone why do we have a brake? the standard answer is “to slow the vehicle or stop the vehicle”. But in reality the brake is there so that we can drive faster. The high speed is possible because of the brake. In life too the small break (vacation) that we take is to move faster. But most of us think if I take time out what will happen to all those responsibilities that I hold. Who will do all those work? Won’t I lag behind others in this big race? But in reality a short break will clear up your mind, let you move faster and get your mojo back. So take time out for yourself.
Value you life over all others. As I said in the beginning your family and friend need you as a person.